When “Go Harder” Stops Working: How I’m Rethinking Belly Fat After 40How My Ego’s Thoughts About My Body Actually Affect My Energy

As I read Day 13 of Make Cause Miracles this one was like a gut punch. It asked. What are my ego’s beliefs about my body?

Whew. This one hit me hard today.

My ego tells me: “No one will work with you because you have belly fat.”

WTF Is Happening to My Body? (And Why You’re Not Alone)

Yep, the mean girl in my head still gets loud some days. I’ll catch myself standing in front of the mirror thinking, “What the actual F is going on with my body?!”

There’s shame. There’s judgment. And this belief that my body has to look a certain way for anyone to trust me to believe that I know what I’m talking about when it comes to weight loss, fitness, or health.

That my worth as a coach somehow hinges on how me having 6 pack abs.

Yes, I know it’s BS, but some days, my inner mean girl comes in HOT. And today’s journaling prompt from May Cause Miracles cracked it wide open.

But here’s the thing those thoughts don’t drain my energy. They fuel it.

If anything, when I hear that voice? It makes me want to figure this out. For me. For you. For every woman standing in front of her mirror wondering the same damn thing: “Why isn’t this working anymore?”

It’s not a sign to give up. It’s a sign to get curious.

I know I’m not alone in this. I hear it every day:
“Why doesn’t what used to work… work anymore?”
“What am I doing wrong?”
“Do I need to do more? Less? Different?”

I’ve asked myself those same questions. For years, my reflex was always: “Go harder.” More workouts. Less food. More restriction. More pushing.

And when it didn’t work? I’d think maybe this is just how it is now.

But that’s not the truth.
Just because something hasn’t worked yet… doesn’t mean nothing will.

The Truth About Belly Fat After 40 (It’s Not What You Think)

Your body isn’t broken. It’s different. It needs a different strategy. One that works with your body — not against it.

That’s where I am now. Leaning into giving myself time. Trying new things. Ditching the old “go harder” mentality and instead asking: “What does my body actually need today?”

Because if I can crack this code? You can too.

And if you’ve been looking in the mirror thinking WTF is happening?! I recorded a free podcast just for you: 5 Ways to Crack the Belly Fat Code.

You’ll walk away knowing where to start — no more guessing, no more harder-and-harder. Just smarter.

Go listen now, comment below or shot me an email. I’d love to hear what lands for you.